Yesterday’s wifey

Back in the yester years ladies had a high calling.  I found lovely book the other day at the library.  It’s called The Seasonal Hearth by Adelaide Hechtlinger.

There are several recipes and menus from early America but the things that caught my eye were those pertaining to the women themselves.

Here are a few tidbits extracted  that I found to be inspiring:



Make up your beds early in the morning; sew buttons on your husband’s shirts; do not rake up any grievances; protect the young and tender branches of your family; plant a smile of good temper in your face, and root out all angry feelings, and expect a good crop of happiness

love the gardening metaphor 🙂



For a good, everyday household angel, give us the woman who laughs.  Her biscuits may not be always just right, and she may occasionally burn her bread, and forget to replace dislocated buttons; but, for solid comfort all day and every day, she is a very paragon.  The trick of always seeing the bright side, or, if the matter has no bright side, of shining up the dark one, is a very important faculty; one of the things no woman should be without.  We are not all born with the sunshine in our hearts, as the Irish prettily phrase it; but we can cultivate a cheerful sense of humor, if only we try.

If you aren’t much for house work…just keep smiling! Seriously though, I find that my mood sets the tone for those around me.  It’s a struggle sometimes but I’ve got to do what I know is right.  My pastor preaches two messages that hit this on the head.  “Get rid of your Stinkin’ Thinkin'” and “I think myself Happy”.  It takes a lot of mental effort but the results are life changing!

Old fashioned for sure but I  find a good bit of this advice is still sound

These excerpts are originally from The Old Farmer’s Almanac, Robert B. Thomas


Talkin’ bout love

I must confess… I have a struggle. (Insert long sigh) Marriage was stinky hard for me.  The wife thing never really made total sense.  My role…well…just wasn’t clear in my mind.  I knew I had to be a friend, a helper, a giver and forgiver.  Other than that I guess I was lost. So for all you kinda-missed-the-pre-marriage-counseling ladies out there I have a few little things that have helped me along the way.

Dating Divas- good stuff there people! (can do on a cheap budget too!)

5 love languages- again, good stuff

Good examples- find a couple who has been happily married many years

Honor- simply put, honor that guy for the man he is. It just may change how he treats you for the better…win-win!

Speak love- this is a good one for me.  I get a little tense and I need to at the least relax for the moment to focus on my words and say what I MEAN *not* what I FEEL. Counting to five is a good slow it down before you respond mechanism

Kisses- yes, even when you don’t feel like it.  Be affectionate when/how it suits you.  Don’t go super PDA if you are uncomfortable but a little squeeze/touch/smile/wink can go a long way

Happy Lovin’ !